Anna&Axel - POLTERABEND!

[AnnaPerenna 102]

Gode råd!

(skal jeg oversætte det??)

1. Plan on having a pair of comfy shoes for your reception. If you never wear them, so what. Your wedding shoes may be “so comfy” but after standing non-stop for 12 hours, your feet will kill for some cushion. Try to get the same heel height for both sets of shoes. If your ceremony shoes heel of your ceremony shoes is 2.5", then the heel of your reception should be 2.5" (or close enough) or you’ll trip on your dress while dancing.

2. Inform your bridal party what’s going on about a week in advance. I got a lot of grief for making a timeline, but that day, no one complained or said, “What are we doing?” or “Where are we going?” I informed them all in advance.

3. Don’t overwhelm your bridal party with details. You may think they care, but they don’t. If they ask, then answer. If they don’t ask, don’t feel the need to bring it up.

4. You will hear tons of advice and suggestions while planning. Listen to people’s suggestions and opinions while planning. Just listen! You don’t have to actually act on their suggestions or opinions, but it’s horrible to just shut down their idea immediately without pondering it. And in advance, try to think of a good comeback should Aunt Susie come back to you and ask why you aren’t using her beyond ugly hat for your veil. Something like, “I wanted to use my mom’s veil instead because it meant so much” or whatever it is you think is good.

5. Beware: You will hear horrible opinions and you will upset someone along the way. It’s inevitable that someone at your wedding will not have fun because you can’t please everyone! Just go with the flow.

6. You’re Done Planning On Your Day. The day of your wedding, remember that you can plan and plan and plan before the day but when that day comes, you can’t plan anymore. You must go with the flow of things. If you think you will be stressed the day of the wedding, delegate to a friend, family member, or hire a wedding coordinator to solve all the little things that go wrong that day. There will inevitably be something that goes wrong and some things you just can’t plan (like rain or a BM getting sick).

7. Always have a smile on your face. You may have hired a photographer with a camera who will tell you to “smile” before snapping the shot, but don’t forget the other guests who all have cameras as well. Keep in mind that someone has a camera somewhere and every minute a photo will be snapped. If you must cry, if you must make a weird face, go to the bathroom in the stall where there aren’t cameras and make that face.

8. In advance, well in advance, set the ground of how many people each side of the family can invite. We had 250 guests (including bridal party) so bride’s parents could invite 82 people, the groom’s parents could invite 82 people, and the bride/groom could invite 86 people. If someone goes over their guest count, ask them to break their list into “A” list and “B” list. You may not want to invite your father’s boss to the wedding, but if your parent’s are paying for the wedding, let them.

9. Don’t invest too much time, money, or energy on the wedding night lingerie. You will both be so exhausted to even notice. If it’s your first night together, he won’t even notice what you’re wearing anyways. You will both be so exhausted from having 4 hours of sleep the night before and standing non-stop for who knows how long.

10. The little details are not worth the energy. No one will notice that the font on the invitation is the same font on the place cards or that the napkins were folded into people’s initials. People only notice if the band/DJ was good, the food was good, the liquor was constantly flowing, and if the bride/groom were having a good time.

11. Leave for your honeymoon two days after your wedding. If you get married on a Saturday, leave on a Monday. We were so happy to have a day to say good-bye to our family and friends who drove or flew in for our wedding and then have the rest of the day to do laundry and pack for the honeymoon. We were able to hand off keys to our friend who was going to watch our pet, feed our plants, and take in the mail while we were gone where we never would have had time to do that if we left Sunday morning.

12. Dance together. This may seem obvious, but so many weddings I've been to lately the bride and groom aren't dancing together. My husband and I danced the entire night, we barely left the floor.

13. Don’t leave each other’s sides. Obviously people get to talking and so forth, but for the most part, stay together. I say this because people keep telling me it's the best wedding due to me and my husband glowing together the whole time whether we were dancing, eating or talking to people. Again, seen bride and groom separate a lot lately at weddings. Remember, you set the tone for your wedding.

14. Ask a friend or family member to take tons of photos for you. You may have hired a photographer, but the photographer can’t be everywhere. They also may have missed a great shot because they took it at a different angle. Besides, the photographer proofs are expensive to buy outside of what's included in the package.

15. If you have hired transportation, make sure someone is in charge of who's to be in what limo or trolley. Also, make sure the drivers have a name of those people or you risk them getting left behind.

16. Do not plan on doing things a week before you wedding outside of self pampering. You inevitably will have last minute things that need to get done or “Aunt Susie” is lost, needs help shopping or whatever. Just like on your wedding day, something will go wrong before the day happens too.

17. The day of the wedding, give someone your schedules, timelines, all vendor schedules and contact numbers, but also keep a copy for yourself. It helped a lot to make sure things were on time.

18. Enjoy the day and take time to take it all in. This includes before you walk down the aisle and also at the reception. I took two moments: 1 with my dad to soak it all in before walking down the aisle and another at the head table with my husband. So take a few minutes out with your new husband. Just to kiss, hug, and soak it all in for a minute. You will be "on" in front of all your guests...so just take a minute to chill. If you can, you could also take a private limo of just you and your hubbie after the ceremony.

19. Stay Hydrated! You are dancing all night, sweating and doing nothing but talking. You will get dehydrated.

20. Stand Up Straight Your photos will look so much better if you look good in it.

21. Don't expect your BM's to be your flunkies or personal assistants. They should be able to enjoy themselves as well. You are not paying them to be there... they volunteered. Treat them with respect.

22. Don’t Compromise If You Want It. Although you want to keep your mind open to options...if you want something and it is essential to how you want your day. Don't compromise!

23. Allot yourself for some no-shows. Believe me when I say...people will blow you off, forget, or an emergency happened.

24. If you can avoid it, don't spend a fortune on your wedding day ensemble. Everything you wear the day of your wedding will be filthy if not completely destroyed by the end of the night. Ripped veils, ripped dresses, grass stains, red wine stains, etc. are all very popular things that happen to brides. Also, if you want to keep your wedding dress, get it cleaned immediately after the wedding. The longer the stains soak in, the less likely they will come out.

25. No One’s Wedding is Perfect. We had a beautiful, memorable, outstanding in every way wedding, but it wasn't *perfect*. Don't obsess over having everything be perfect because there's no way it will ever be and you will have no control over it.

26. You'll learn a lot (good and bad) about people along the way. Try not to get too discouraged by the not-so-interested ones. Even though all you do is think about the wedding, other people don't. You just kinda have to feel people out. Some will be incredibly helpful and others will seem like they don't care. Sometimes it's more work to do things by yourself, but often times it saves you arguments and headaches. Surround yourself by supportive and happy people

27. Eat! It sounds obvious but people love to “clink the glasses” and you’ll have your lips on your husbands mouth instead of tasting the food the whole night. We asked our reception site to bring us our entire 5 course meal all at once. We ate our meal quick so we could actually eat and not wait for each course to be cleared first, not to mention we were starving.

28. Say Thank You to Your Guests even if you didn’t want them there (ie. Dad’s boss or that annoying Uncle). We ate our meal quick and then had over an hour to visit each table and say thank you for coming. We had the rest of the night to dance because we said hello to everyone.

29. Embrace the inevitable flubs and goof-ups that happen. Stuff gets messed up, and that's fine. What matters is how you react. Keep your sense of humor and roll with it. Things will go wrong. They always do. But laugh about them. Always keep in mind that the two of you are there DOING IT - GETTING MARRIED! Regardless of the weather, the flaky BM, flowers not looking exactly as expected... WHATEVER. Enjoy it.

30. Make a “Money Is No Object” List Before planning the wedding, sit down with your FI and make a list of the 1, 2, or 3 items that “money is no object”. Our list included: The Church, Our Wedding Bands, Our Photographer, and Our Honeymoon. We set those budgets first and then went cheap on everything else. Amazing how you can find a really cheap dress that makes you look stunning!

31. Choose Your Bridal Party Wisely. Think long and hard about who you will ask to stand up in your wedding before asking them. BM's and GM's tend to provide some of the biggest headaches to brides during the planning process. Choose people you trust implicitly, who you know without a doubt will add to your joy, not cause you more pain. Even if it means your bridal party is uneven, or small, or missing your second cousin.

32. Stay in the room! Once you leave the room your reception is in, you'll get stopped 100 times and you'll miss the whole thing. Stay put! People want to have the bride celebrating with them, and you want to remember your reception. Only leave to go to the bathroom.

33. Go with your gut on vendors. Go with your gut when you're planning. Better to pay extra on a deposit than be upset on your wedding day.

34. Make an emergency kit You'll use it! Bobby pins, white chalk, lipstick on hand, safety pins... And then remember to bring it to your reception ballroom/room.

35. Make A “Quick Fix” List I made a cheat sheet of how to fix mistakes that happen to your dress (you can find it on the Knot). The list included What Happens If You Get: Blood stain on your dress, red wine spill on your dress, lipstick on your dress, etc. It worked great!!

36. Provide scotch tape to whomever will be carrying your gifts out of the reception hall. That way, they can make sure that any cards are well-attached to gifts.

37. Ask someone to watch your card box or remove it completely from the reception. So many brides say they get their gifts stolen. After you’re done with cocktail hour or the receiving line, have someone move the gifts to your honeymoon suite or have them moved behind the head table where it’s obvious if someone is getting sticky fingers. Don’t trust anyone! You will have strangers enter your wedding. Haven't you ever seen "Wedding Crashers"?!

38. Before walking down the aisle, look in the mirror and soak it all in. You won’t get another chance to do that for the entire day.

39. Let your FI handle the in-law issues. If you have issues with your MIL, FIL, or whoever, let your FI handle it. It's his family! Don't let anyone take control of your day. As long as you and FI stand strong, and agree, thats what matters.

40. Don't stress over things you can't control (ie. weather). Just have back-up plans so you are ready should something go wrong you can't control.

41. Wear your wedding bands in photos if you take photos before the wedding. That way you won't know if the photo was taken before or after the ceremony.

42. If you have a bustle, make sure all of the corresponding hooks/ribbons are there before you leave the seamstress. And, if possible, depending on the type of bustle, have your seamstress number the ribbons so you know what number goes to which ribbon.

43. If you are wearing a hoop skirt, make sure the hoops are spun in a way that the extra metal at the end where you size it is not sticking out.

44. Walk around in your dress with the slip! I hadn’t done this, so when I started down the aisle, I was stepping on the front of the crinoline slip or the dress. You can walk around when you try it on with the seamstress.

45. Confirm with the limo driver (if you have one) that he has the right directions. In fact, give him your own directions. Also, give the photographer the directions too.

[Guest Josefin]

Det er ok.. det er disse sko jeg mener

Ja, dem gemmer jeg også, jeg er sikker på at jeg nok skl få dem drevet op en dag, eller selv få krearet dem. Jeg var så vild da jeg så dem

De er så SUPPPPER fede!!! ellers kan jeg godt leve med disse.. mon ikke man kan købe et par sko med ankelrem, tage den ud og sætte bånd i???

altså indtil videre er det min plan med de nye jeg har købt Men jeg vil lige se om det bliver for meget.

Det tror jeg ikke!! Man kan lige se snuderne under kjolen, og så kun båndet når man løfter skørtet.. Lækkert!! har du fået sat tyl i kjolen også??

ikke endnu, jeg skal hente den om ca 1½ uge

[AnnaPerenna 102]

Det er ok.. det er disse sko jeg mener

Ja, dem gemmer jeg også, jeg er sikker på at jeg nok skl få dem drevet op en dag, eller selv få krearet dem. Jeg var så vild da jeg så dem

De er så SUPPPPER fede!!! ellers kan jeg godt leve med disse.. mon ikke man kan købe et par sko med ankelrem, tage den ud og sætte bånd i???

altså indtil videre er det min plan med de nye jeg har købt Men jeg vil lige se om det bliver for meget.

Det tror jeg ikke!! Man kan lige se snuderne under kjolen, og så kun båndet når man løfter skørtet.. Lækkert!! har du fået sat tyl i kjolen også??

ikke endnu, jeg skal hente den om ca 1½ uge

Åhh jeg glæder mig til at se den.. har du fundet ud af hvad du gør med sløret?? og Jakobs bange anelser om "American bride"??

[Guest Josefin]

Åhh jeg glæder mig til at se den.. har du fundet ud af hvad du gør med sløret?? og Jakobs bange anelser om "American bride"??

Du kan se den tråd jeg har lavet med håret lidt længere nede, det er så bare uden diadem og uden lak osv, så knolden sidder ikke så flot, men det var mere for at prøve det med den stramme opsætning.

[AnnaPerenna 102]

Uhh kigger nu!

http://www.bargain-bride.com/gowns2.htm Klik på side 2 Ville du turde få den syet her? Den er jo MEGA billigt??

Redigeret April 22, 2007 af AnnaPerenna

[Guest Josefin]

Uhh kigger nu!

http://www.bargain-bride.com/gowns2.htm Klik på side 2 Ville du turde få den syet her? Den er jo MEGA billigt??

Ja hold da op, det er godt nok billigt. Jeg ved ikke om jeg ville turde det, men hvis de med den røde baggrund er dem de har fået syet er det da ok arbejde til prisen. Ellers må du i lag med Louises skræder fra thailand

[AnnaPerenna 102]

Uhh kigger nu!

http://www.bargain-bride.com/gowns2.htm Klik på side 2 Ville du turde få den syet her? Den er jo MEGA billigt??

Ja hold da op, det er godt nok billigt. Jeg ved ikke om jeg ville turde det, men hvis de med den røde baggrund er dem de har fået syet er det da ok arbejde til prisen. Ellers må du i lag med Louises skræder fra thailand

Ja det er næsten FOR billigt!! Uha altså! Det er ikke sådan jeg er 100 % på at det SKAL være Lhuillier, men det ville da heller ikke gøre mig noget!! Hvis du går til gallery - det er vel dem de selv har syet.. der er bare ikke Swan Lake kjolen !

Alle: SER HER!! Masse hjemmesider med billige tricks og links!!

http://www.theknot.com/co_profileview.htm?...me=WEBSITES_BIO

Redigeret April 22, 2007 af AnnaPerenna

[AnnaPerenna 102]

Negative farver!!

Syntes bare det ser flot ud Min kjoler. måske til save the date card eller ..??

Redigeret April 22, 2007 af AnnaPerenna

[Guest Josefin]

Negative farver!!

Syntes bare det ser flot ud Min kjoler. måske til save the date card eller ..??

hapser den lige til tak for deltagelse kort

[AnnaPerenna 102]

Kan lave dem til dig uden skrift? hvis du har et bestemt billede du gerne vil have lavet om så bare i paint - og så negative farver. ser VILDT godt ud efter min mening!!

Syntes denne ballerina kunne være sej til et eller andet?!

Redigeret April 22, 2007 af AnnaPerenna

[Guest Josefin]

Kan lave dem til dig uden skrift? hvis du har et bestemt billede du gerne vil have lavet om så bare i paint - og så negative farver. ser VILDT godt ud efter min mening!!

Jeg prøver lige selv en gang. Selv om jeg er en skovl til paint. Hvad hedder negative farver på engelsk?

[AnnaPerenna 102]

Kan lave dem til dig uden skrift? hvis du har et bestemt billede du gerne vil have lavet om så bare i paint - og så negative farver. ser VILDT godt ud efter min mening!!

Jeg prøver lige selv en gang. Selv om jeg er en skovl til paint. Hvad hedder negative farver på engelsk?

Umiddelbart det samme - ellers kan jeg gøre det for dig.. Det er nr. 3 fane - og nr. 3 ned (Billede og så negative farver)

Redigeret April 22, 2007 af AnnaPerenna

[Guest katjamo]

Gode billeder 4

Hvor har du de sider om at tage gode billeder fra?

[AnnaPerenna 102]

Gode billeder 4

Hvor har du de sider om at tage gode billeder fra?

Hej !!

Dem har jeg fra en bio hos The Knot.. hvorfor??

[Guest katjamo]

Gode billeder 4

Hvor har du de sider om at tage gode billeder fra?

Hej !!

Dem har jeg fra en bio hos The Knot.. hvorfor??

Synes de er super! Ville godt lige finde originalerne. Kan du evt. maile dem til mig? katjamoikjaer@hotmail.com

[AnnaPerenna 102]

Gode billeder 4

Hvor har du de sider om at tage gode billeder fra?

Hej !!

Dem har jeg fra en bio hos The Knot.. hvorfor??

Synes de er super! Ville godt lige finde originalerne. Kan du evt. maile dem til mig? katjamoikjaer@hotmail.com

Jamen du får da bare linket: http://community.theknot.com/cs/ks/user/de...me=whypicsRgood

[Guest katjamo]

Gode billeder 4

Hvor har du de sider om at tage gode billeder fra?

Hej !!

Dem har jeg fra en bio hos The Knot.. hvorfor??

Synes de er super! Ville godt lige finde originalerne. Kan du evt. maile dem til mig? katjamoikjaer@hotmail.com

Jamen du får da bare linket: http://community.theknot.com/cs/ks/user/de...me=whypicsRgood

Perfekt! Mange tak, lige hvad jeg havde brug for

[Guest Josefin]

Anna. Har du egentlig noget med sommerfugle i gemmerne som du evt vil linke til eller smide i min tråd??

[AnnaPerenna 102]

Anna. Har du egentlig noget med sommerfugle i gemmerne som du evt vil linke til eller smide i min tråd??

Will try!

[AnjaSL 0]

Hej Anna

Du har simpelthen så mange fine idéer - og din inspirationstråd ender da med at vokse hurtigere og blive længere end Theshes tråd med den fart du har på

Her er lige en sød lille "Lykken er..." til dig

[AnnaPerenna 102]

Hej Anja,

tak for den lille søde Kim Calasi tegning - og den passerr jo perfekt til mig Jeg er glad for du kan lide det!! og om jeg når op på 100 og noget sider - tjaae, det kommer an på hvor hurtigt Bent frier

Anna!!!

[AnjaSL 0]

Hej Anja,

tak for den lille søde Kim Calasi tegning - og den passerr jo perfekt til mig Jeg er glad for du kan lide det!! og om jeg når op på 100 og noget sider - tjaae, det kommer an på hvor hurtigt Bent frier

Anna!!!

Skulle Bent falde på knæ i eftermiddag, er jeg sikker på at du stadig kan komme op over de 100 sider

[AnnaPerenna 102]

Hej Anja,

tak for den lille søde Kim Calasi tegning - og den passerr jo perfekt til mig Jeg er glad for du kan lide det!! og om jeg når op på 100 og noget sider - tjaae, det kommer an på hvor hurtigt Bent frier

Anna!!!

Skulle Bent falde på knæ i eftermiddag, er jeg sikker på at du stadig kan komme op over de 100 sider

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HEY!!!

[Dorthe6 0]

NOGEN DER VED HVOR DENNE KJOLE ER FRA?

Hej

Synes at jeg er stødt på hos en eller anden af skrædderen/designerne, som annoncerer herinde, men kan ikke huske hvilken...

Dorthe

[AnjaSL 0]

Hej Anja,

tak for den lille søde Kim Calasi tegning - og den passerr jo perfekt til mig Jeg er glad for du kan lide det!! og om jeg når op på 100 og noget sider - tjaae, det kommer an på hvor hurtigt Bent frier

Anna!!!

Skulle Bent falde på knæ i eftermiddag, er jeg sikker på at du stadig kan komme op over de 100 sider

¨

HEY!!!

Men du har jo så mange gode og fine idéer, som presser sig på for at blive delt ud til os andre til inspiration